A Note on Friendship
“We’re not friends anymore,” he said from deep in the backseat. I was driving and couldn’t find him in the rearview mirror.
“Why?” I asked. “What happened?”
“He won’t play with me,” he said. “He told me he was my best friend, but that was a lie.”
We were driving down a long and winding road. It was a steep fall straight to my gut.
“Just because a friend is playing with someone else doesn’t mean he isn’t your friend, too.”
Quiet.
I saw movement in the backseat, but it was his brother trying to position himself for a better look at the rocks we were passing.
Then, “I told him I didn’t want to be his friend.”
“What did he say?” I asked.
“He said that was good. He said that he lied about being my best friend.”
“I don’t believe that he meant it,” I said. “People say mean things when they have their feelings hurt. It happens all the time.”
“He hurt my feelings first,” he answered.
“And then you said something mean,” I replied. “Mean words have a way of spreading.”
His brother yawned and fiddled with his backpack. Then our street was there, where it always is, waiting around the corner. As I turned I could see them both, each leaning against a window, one looking far and full of wonder, the other looking farther still, and his eyes were met in his reflection.
Then I showed them the spot where I had seen a vulture earlier in the day.
“A real vulture?” they asked.
And the car filled with conversation.
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“May I use that?” I asked. He handed me the note that I had, just moment before, found him writing.
“Why?”
“Because I want to share it,” I said.
“Okay.”
“I’m proud of you,” I told him. “And I always am.”
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damn. That is cool.
Thanks. I must admit, I was rather impressed and give him all the credit.
If I can teach my kid to apologize well, and apologize often, I’ll consider my dadding a success. Nice job.
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It’s a real life skill! Thank you!
That there is parenting with grace and nuance. I admire this kind of soft, honest dialogue. And wow, that note! That is a modern man right there!
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I am full of nuance. And other things. Thanks!
I wish big kids would do this type of thing. And by “big kids,” I mean “the punk ass lawyers who are always trying to fuck my clients over.”
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Punk asses gonna punk ass. Or something like that.
Delicious, Whit. So painful when it happens. Beautifully handled.
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Thank you, Wolf! I missed you at Dad 2.0 this year!
That kid of yours has real balls, man. Brave as one can be.
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He’s a baller.